Discussion: Social Media Comparisons, On Hurrying Up Love and Love Takes Time.

I'm trying something new with my blogs. This is called 'Discussion' where we talk about relationships, life and things that matter to you. Think of this like an advice column.

Today's topic is all about Social Media Comparisons - how social media can sometimes feel worse for someone's self-esteem, Hurrying Up Love - people are now pleading for their future spouses, and Love Takes Time - Advice on waiting for a forever love. 

When it came down to the rising social media concerning mental health and how we look at ourselves. Its easy to be drawn into comparisons when we look at ourselves. 

My current feed on Social Media is from people who are making videos on how to 'live your life' mentality and videos on what you should do. Sometimes it can be the same advice, live healthy, eat properly and exercise. And on certain aspects to it, you look at yourself and start to question on what shall I do in my 20s, 30s, or maybe in your 80s. 

However, I believe there are some Instagram accounts I follow for motherly advice. One of which is my favourite. 

Nikki Hassell

Nikki Hassell - Pictured here, shares some amazing advice for young people - specifically young girls about living in your 20s and 30s. 

According to her IMDB biography page, she is the first woman to ever sell stocks as a stockbroker in Wall Street. 

She has her own show called 'The Nikki Hassell Show' which she interviews celebrities. 

I'll 100% write an separate blog post on her history some other time. 

I'll tell you this, I don't think there is any right or wrong answer to living life. And loving love. There is no race or competitiveness in terms of gaining what you have, and losing what you need. 

In terms of social media comparisons, I think that we need to stop doing this. Because again, not everyone has a same mindset in terms of what they want to accomplish. They are spectators. Watching your every move, or not. And some stay to cheer you on, while others, leave you hanging. 

Finding a husband or wife, seeing videos on finding that 'someone' can be challenging, especially for those who are without it. 

Take for instance, Valentine's Day; people are coupling up, giving gifts to significant others and (probably even if that rings true, especially family) bashing other single people for not finding one of their own. 

It can be tough on single people that they might not feel 'self-love' because the media is forcing us find love and relationships. 

For example, I walked with my friends down the street and we noticed, as we passed by, celebrating a divorce. 

She was so happy and celebratory with her friends. She did not care about the world what she thinks of her. That's for her to figure out. And we say, yes to this!

Victoria Valentine

Another example was at the BBC News, when an news anchor Victoria Valentine. 

When I saw that she changed her name to 'Valentine' from Fritz. 

Like this picture, she's doing great and ending up leaving the BBC in favour of her studies. 

I think its so hard to get over a divorce, people start crying, they might start getting frustrated. 

And to be frank for the people who make those videos, you probably won't get one just begging on your knees for someone to pass you a ring. 

It takes time for that to happen and like Phil Collins/The Supremes always say, 'You Can't Hurry Love', 'You just have to wait'. 

You should find someone who meets your goals, and understands them. If someone can't meet them, then I personally think they aren't ready for you.

When it comes to finding a forever love, I think it should be about having compromise. Having a sense of compromise helps with the relationship flourish. 

Whether you are looking for love, good luck in that department, all you need to do is go out and manifest it. 

It'll manifest to you.